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What to Do If Your Ex Is Making False Domestic Abuse Allegations

Written by Barrister Connect | Apr 8, 2026 8:19:47 AM

False allegations of domestic abuse in family proceedings are more common than many people realise. They can arise in the context of divorce, financial remedy, and child arrangements disputes, and if not properly addressed they can have serious consequences for contact with children and the outcome of other proceedings. Knowing how to respond effectively is essential.

How Seriously Does the Court Take Domestic Abuse Allegations?

Very seriously. Practice Direction 12J requires the family court to consider at the outset of any child arrangements case whether there are allegations of domestic abuse and, if so, whether a fact-finding hearing is needed to resolve those allegations before moving on to the arrangements for the children.

This means that even disputed allegations can significantly delay child arrangements proceedings and affect the orders made in the interim. It is not enough simply to deny the allegations: a structured and evidenced response is needed.

What Is a Fact-Finding Hearing?

A fact-finding hearing is a specific hearing at which the judge considers the allegations and makes findings about what actually happened. Both parties give evidence and are cross-examined. The judge then produces a written judgment setting out their findings, which informs the subsequent arrangements for the children.

Fact-finding hearings are significant events where specialist legal representation is strongly advisable.

How Do You Challenge False Allegations?

The starting point is to respond clearly and specifically to each allegation, denying what is false and providing your own account of the relevant events. Evidence is critical. Useful evidence includes contemporaneous messages or emails that contradict the allegations, medical records that are inconsistent with the claimed injuries, evidence from third parties who were present, and any relevant recordings.

It is also important to consider whether there is evidence of a motive to make false allegations. For example,, allegations that emerged only after a contact dispute or divorce proceedings began.

What Should You Not Do?

Do not attempt to contact the other party directly about the allegations. Do not confront them. If there is a non-molestation order in place, any contact could constitute a breach. Communicate only through solicitors or barristers, or through the court process.

Can You Cross-Examine Your Ex at the Hearing?

In family proceedings involving domestic abuse allegations, a party who is alleged to be an abuser is prohibited from cross-examining the alleged victim in person. The cross-examination must be conducted by a barrister or other legal representative. This makes having specialist representation at a fact-finding hearing not just advisable but practically necessary.

Summary

False allegations of domestic abuse in family proceedings must be taken seriously and responded to with clear evidence. A fact-finding hearing is likely to be required where the allegations are disputed. Cross-examination of the alleged victim cannot be conducted in person by the alleged perpetrator. Specialist legal representation at a fact-finding hearing is essential.

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